There are many questions to be asked, like where the bus
driver was when this incident occurred. It only takes minutes for a sexual
assault to occur – or a stabbing, or another act of violence - and the absence
of the bus driver troubles me deeply. But I am also troubled by the lack of
intervention by the other passengers on the bus.
There are those who may argue that perhaps the other passengers
were unaware of what was happening, but if we are honest I think most of us
have been in situations where we knew something was not quite right, even if we
were not entirely certain why. I am the kind of person who calls for help even
in those uncertain times, because I would rather be wrong and have intervened
unnecessarily than be right and have done nothing. And I don’t mean one has to
intervene in a way that risks harm to yourself, as you can dial 911 or even
just call for the help of others as a crowd of individuals has a collective
strength.
There is a recognized phenomenon in human psychology that is
dubbed the “Genovese syndrome”. It refers to the sad case of Kitty Genovese, a
young woman who was murdered in New York in 1964. Dozens of bystanders did
little to intervene, and the case entered history as an example of the tendency
of witnesses to such assaults being reluctant to intervene, and the myriad
reasons behind such reluctance. At the end of the day, though, a young woman
was dead and it appeared no one had truly done anything to try to save her
life.
I don’t want to be too harsh on the individuals on this bus
who appear to have done nothing to help a young woman in distress, although as
a mother of a young woman I must admit that harshness is a reaction close to
the surface for me in this instance. Instead of indicting them, though, I think
this story should serve as a catalyst for all of us to consider what we would
do should we witness this kind of incident. Part of preparedness is thinking
through various scenarios and determining how you would react, so that when and
if you are faced with a situation you have already thought through your
reactions. When we are caught unawares in situations we have not considered our
tendency is far too often to do nothing, as we find ourselves immobilized not
out of lack of compassion but out of fear and not knowing how to respond in an
appropriate way.
This story is, to me, particularly poignant given the recent
media attention about sexual assault. It shows that we still don’t always know
how to respond or react even when it occurs right in front of us, let alone
behind closed doors and involving a celebrity. We struggle with what to do, how
to react and even if we should intervene.
I have tremendous respect for this young woman who had the
strength and intelligence to capture a photo of her assailant leading to his
arrest and conviction. I also hope every person on that bus has taken a good,
long hard look at themselves and their actions – or lack thereof – and considered
what they would do should it ever happen again. And I hope this story, as sad
as it is, causes all of us to look at ourselves and think about what we would
do and how we would react, because the reality is none of us wants to be the
bystander on the bus who did nothing when someone needed our help. And none of
us wants ourselves – or someone we love – to be Kitty Genovese.
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